I will try to make this as short as possible. I have been in a unhappy marriage for some time. I had been giving serious consideration to leaving my husband and then he was diagnosed with prostate cancer in February. He is currently receiving treatment and his prognosis is good. However, I feel like this cancer diagnosis has changed the plans I had to move on with my life. I don't want our grown children to resent me or to be viewed as a monster that left her husband with "cancer". I don't know how long I can go on living a life with someone I no longer want to be married to. I appreciate any advice you have..this is just so hard.
Thank you for writing and I can appreciate your concerns regarding your relationship difficulties. My recommendation is for you to seek support with a licensed psychotherapist for counseling. The issues that you state sound stressful for you and the insight provided by an objective 3rd party, who can help you sort through things, may be useful. Many times, cancer changes relationships, either bringing couples closer together or intensifying pre-existing problems. It appears that you have been evaluating the difficulties of your situation for some time. I encourage you to seek professional counseling to determine your next step.