Hi Anonymous,
It is hard to be torn between the opinions of people whom you respect and care about. Perhaps you can schedule an appointment with your medical team to discuss the pros and cons of partial vs. total nephrectomy in your particular situation. Another idea is to pose this question to: www.mdanderson.org/departments/infoline/
Finally, if you are an MD Anderson patient, you could contact Anderson Network at 713-792-2553 to be matched with other patients who faced similar decisions.
Take care and keep in touch,
Laura Walther-Broussard, LCSW