Hello jrtrask1950-
You seem to be asking for personal advice as well as technical information. There are several good resources for this.
Anderson Network's telephone support line matches patients/caregivers and survivors with similar diagnoses: 800-345-6324 or www.mdanderson.org/andersonnetwork
CanCare of Houston matches volunteers with patients and caregivers as well: 713-461-0028 or www.cancare.org
Finally, MDAnderson.org has a section devoted to kidney cancer, including new treatments: http://www.mdanderson.org/patient-and-cancer-information/cancer-information/cancer-types/kidney-cancer/index.html
Take care and let us know how you are doing!
Laura Walther-Broussard, LCSW, Social Work Counselor